After a year I find myself coming back to it regularly. The mental frame is generous, developmental, and resonating. I copy it here to spread the word and, honestly, for easier reference for myself. In the same spirit of easy referencing I dared to coin the name for this frame.
So, ladies and gentlemen, without further due, here is the copy of the original post of Joseph.
The Joseph Pelrine's Mentoring Codes
Some thoughts on mentoring.
During a recent conversation with a young friend, I was saddened and shocked to hear that they were looking for someone to mentor them, but all the people they asked demanded lots of money to do so (n.b. they work in a completely different field, so I can’t help them).
I guess I’m stupid. I could have earned a lot of money from the people I’ve mentored. But I don’t work like that. For me,
helping others is a social norm and a moral responsibility
My mentoring doesn’t come free of charge, though. I ask for 4 things from the people I mentor:
1. Make me proud of you. Always strive to do your best. You won’t always succeed, but I’ll help you learn from your failures so that you get better.
2. Don’t go dark on me. Stay in touch with me and let me know how you’re doing, especially if you’re not doing well. Sometimes we can pick up subtle clues to potential problems that will help us get better.
3. Look for opportunities for us to work together. Even though I’m not asking you for any money, I don’t mind if your company or your client supports our work financially
4. Pay forward. I’ve only gotten to where I am because my mentors gave freely of their knowledge, and only asked of me what I’m asking of you. As Edith Piaf (supposedly) once said: "when you've reached the top, send the elevator back down for the others".
p.s. Joseph has remained our guru since the dawn of resonate.